Stereotypes

  I remember myself laughing after seeing a bumper sticker that said “Female Asian Driver, Good Luck Everyone Else!” Even though we know such ‘stereotype jokes’ can be very offensive to some people, many people tend to enjoy them. I am an Asian male student who drives, but I just laughed about the joke, simply because it was funny (or maybe because I was only half-mocked by the sticker). After finding an article called “Fair Sex Analyzed In Experiment At Tufts” in The Emory Wheel printed on February 8th, 1934, I noticed that exactly the same type of joke have been around for at least 78 years. This made me think that some aspects of sexuality maybe are not changing much.

  The article, almost surely written by a man, makes fun of women in general by describing their stereotypical characteristics in a way that a scientist would describe chemicals. Many descriptions such as “Usually covered with coat of paint or a film of powder”, “Boils at nothing and may freeze at any moment”, and “Possesses great affinity [to] gold, silver, platinum, and precious stones of all kinds” may be insulting to many women, but I was surprised by the fact how similar this 78-year old article was to present-day stereotype sexist jokes. This finding, in turn, reminded me of my past realization that the traditional roles of men and women of many cultures do not vary much.

  Growing up in Korea and New Zealand, and attending an American college, I saw almost the same expectations and demands from men and women of all ethnicities I have encountered. Even with major differences among these cultures, including what people wore, ate, and used, the man-woman relationship had pretty much the same theme in their histories. In the time when the East and West did not know about each other, both cultures and even Māori tribes, the natives of New Zealand, assumed that men were supposed to protect and earn money or food for the family, and women were responsible for cooking, raising children, and looking pretty. Even just the idea of marriage and its commitment arising spontaneously in the same way in different cultures tells us that humans have properties toward sexuality that are somewhat inherent and universal (I am referring to each culture’s heterosexual norms). I am not saying we should stick with these stereotypes nor suggesting that we should necessarily break these stereotypes. I think we should at least note what we are born with.

  Today, we are trying to promote equal opportunities for all sexualities, but in certain cases, we cannot do so perfectly. For example, we do not expect male soldier’s combat efficiency from a female soldier, and in fact, that is the reason why female soldiers do not get assigned to frontline infantry positions in the US Army. In creating a society of equal rights for people with all kinds of sexual identities, understanding what we have and have not changed, and what we can and cannot change will be a key to more progressive society. Above mentioned jokes may be written in very casual way, but it could reveal more about how we should approach making changes in our minds.

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The readings and discussion this week shed light on the migration of LGBTs to large urban areas. These people find it harder to express their ‘true self’ in rural areas where the repercussions from community members might be more harsh and backwards. In the United States, the percentage of people identifying as gay, lesbian or bisexual sits at about 3.5%. But as you shift the focus to metropolitan cities within the US, there are 10 cities with above 7% and 5 cities with above 12%1. LGBT individuals may migrate to these areas in order to find social groups with similar beliefs. These groups form communities in the same way you see specific ethic neighborhoods developing within cities. The impact that these community of non-heterosexuals also appears to have effected other sexual identities within metro areas, as we have recently seen the proliferation of the term ‘metrosexual’ and shows such as Queer Eye for the Straight Guy.
 
Atlanta now represents a liberal, accepting safe haven in the south surrounded by the more stereotypical ‘south’. The influx from outside rural areas of those seeking groups of likeminded people would contribute greatly to the diverse we see in Atlanta today. In the same way Jewish communities have developed in the North Druid Hills neighborhoods, the areas of Midtown and Ansley Park have become ubiquitously known for their pro-LGBT opinions and population. 
 
However, Atlanta must not have always been so accepting of this diversity. As such we would expect the discourse of sexual identity in Emory publications to be interesting. Emory was primarily a liberal arts school consisting of mainly regional students. Because these students hailed predominantly from the ‘south’, the overall opinions (possibly despite the education offered) must have aligned with that of the communities the students came from. As Emory transitioned into a nationally renowned intellectual and research center, this may have changed the way the university as a whole functioned with respect to the acknowledgement of sexual identity and fluidity. 
 
I think it would be interesting to look further into the level and attitude of the sexual identity discourse at Emory, as well as throughout the entire Atlanta metro area, in response to the evolving identity of Emory as an institution. I believe the recruitment of liberal, intellectual minds from across vastly different parts of the world would correspond with an increased tolerance and discussion of such topics. Emory’s role at the frontline of the AIDS battle would most likely also cause a change in the way the gay community was regarded in Atlanta.

1) Gates, G. How many people are lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender? (April 2011) The Williams Institute. http://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/wp-content/uploads/Gates-How-Many-People-LGBT-Apr-2011.pdf

Who wears the pants?

Homosexual couples often are asked the question “Who is the male and who is the female in your relationship?” Because the majority of us have grown up and have become familiar with the male-female sexuality construct, it is natural for one to want to characterize each individual into one of these two roles. When you think about it, this is a pretty hetero-minded question to be asking. In heterosexual relationships, specific gender roles have set standards and expectations of each party involved. In reality, what we really should be asking is, “Who is in control?”
The genderized role of a male is that he is strong and domineering, and usually is the sole breadwinner in the relationship. Males engage in activities that foster competitiveness and are generally looked at as being on top in the relationship hierarchy. The genderized role of the female is that she is submissive to men and has a more passive personality. The women is supposed to look good and do all of the tasks, such as a variety of household chores, that will make the male’s life easier. These gender categorizations make it easy for one to differentiate who is who in the relationship. This is why we have such a tendency to point out who is more feminine and who is more “butch” in a homosexual relationship.
The most obvious way society determines who is who is simply by the clothes each partner wears. But there are personality traits that are associated with each role. The person that is more “butch” generally wears the pants in the relationship, is more aggressive, and is the breadwinner. I was not surprised when I read in the Relationships and Sexuality article “in gay male couples, income is an extremely important force in determining which partner will be dominate.” Money fosters dependency, which is why in the stereotypical heterosexual couple the male works and the female stays at home and caters to him. Gender roles in homosexual relationships can produce many problems. By deeming one person to be butch and one to be feminine, this confines each to their respective stereotypes. Members may not be able to express their true selves due to the restrictions their gender roles have placed on them.
After reading many articles on the topic, it seems that what a lot of scholars feel really determines the hierarchy in homosexual relationships is which member has sexual dominance. This means that whoever is penetrating is the one in charge. It seems that there is a huge disconnect between the equality homosexual couples want to achieve and what they actually achieve. In an early study, 92% of gay men and 97% of lesbians defined the ideal balance of power as one in which both partners were “exactly equal”. When compared to a later study that asked lesbian and gay couples “who has more say” in your relationship, only 38% of gay men and 59% of lesbians characterized their current relationship as “exactly equal” there is a clear disconnect. Establishing and defining gender roles in homosexual relationships is not black and white. I think we have a very hard time understanding homosexual relationships because of the heterosexual imagery we are constantly presented with and have grown accustomed to.

Emory 1994

Over and over again we have discussed Emory as progressive school in terms of acceptance of openness towards sexuality. Since this is partly due to the part of the semester we are in. we have not had the opportunity yet to delve in to topics about Emory towards sexual health. As alluded by my blogger name, I am focusing my research on sexual health with respect to sexually transmitted diseases and AIDS.
This week I my researched pertained to Emory yearbooks in 1994 and 1999. Before even starting my research, the question that kept coming to mind was, “How am going to find anything dealing with sexual health in a yearbook?” Maybe I am the only one to think that sexual health does not seem like the typical subject in a memoir reflecting over the past year of school, but either way. I was wrong. It turns out that in the 1994 yearbook there were several examples dealing with sex and sexuality. In fact, it only took turning to page 3 to discover my first example. The editor of the year expressed a desire to create a plot idea for the yearbook that depicted a homosexual couple, but ultimately refrained for fear of being offensive. The editor goes on to say, “well okay, we’d probably be offensive no matter what we did.” Granted I was young during 1994, but the prevalence of homosexuality in the early 90’s certainly was not as well accepted as is it is today (and we live in a time today that it is still contested). But I feel this serves as a great example of the Emory student body being able to look ahead of the times to come. Who was the editor of the yearbook concerned of offending though? Later on in the same year, the year wrote a feature about a guest speaker named Dr. Ruth Westheimer who is a sex therapist that came to speak at Emory in 1994. Obviously since Emory allowed a person who focuses on dealing with sex, the school was not opposed to having someone come talk about the topic. Later in the same volume, the yearbook staff made a blatant sexual innuendo about a girl who was wearing a hat which read “COCKS” which is a common reference to the University of South Carolina Gamecocks. This shows yearbook staff was not concerned about making such references. So who exactly was the concern because surely there must have been enough of a homosexual representation at Emory during this time that making a statement then retracting it must have been thought to be okay on some level.
Plot Summary for 1994 Yearbook
Dr. Ruth
Dr. Ruth ArticleSo about that hat....

Accepting a Different Kind of Life

“£40m for any man who can turn my gay daughter straight: Father’s shock offer after lesbian wedding ceremony” by Mail Foreign Service.

In Hong Kong, a wealthy playboy’s daughter has taken to a different kind of lifestyle than what he was expecting. After Gigi Chao’s lesbian marriage in France, father Cecil Chao announced a reward of 40 million pounds to whichever man that makes his daughter straight. Reading the comments underneath the article made it very clear that most people are outraged by the “marriage bounty” (Mail Foreign Service). Clearly, money can’t buy you everything. The fact that this playboy father publicly announces his rejection for his daughter’s lifestyle proves his intolerance and pure desperation. In Hong Kong, where they’re from, gay marriage is not accepted. I’m not quite sure of the social taboos or the range of acceptance in Hong Kong but perhaps straying from the sexuality norms is not acceptable. In a society that doesn’t have an active awareness campaign and/or very clear populations of LGBT communities, it is very unlikely that individuals will be accepting of, in this case, a lesbian couple. I’m sure the father’s promiscuous heterosexual active lifestyle is part of the reason he is so openly against the lesbian couple.

The South is also often considered an area and culture that is very intolerant of different types of lifestyles especially when it comes to sexuality. In Sweet Tea, homosexual African American men tell their stories of their gay partners. Bob’s story hits close to home; he attended Emory University upon meeting his partner. About his mom’s contact with his interracial partner, he says “Although my mother has been in contact with white people, she had never been in intimate contact with them; she was in a more subservient role” (Johnson 434). Its interesting that his first thought went to race and not much is said about his mother reacted to his sexuality. Perhaps homosexuality was more taboo at this time?Talking about California, Bob says “Because if you think about it back in the 70’s, the civil rights movement had just come into vogue, and in Berkeley it was the in thing to have these interracial meetings” (Johnson 434). The vast difference between his home experience and the diversity he experienced during his time of California portrays a geographical and cultural difference in topics of race of and sexuality. In the South in the 60’s and 70’s, racism was omnipresent. But on the west coast, it was the “in thing” to mix with people of other races. It seems that the other parts of the nation seem to have been more accepting of a broader range of ideals that stray from the social norm while the south maintained its rigidity.

But at the present moment, in Atlanta, I beg to differ. I think this part of the South has opened their minds and hearts to accept to LGBT. I also think that homosexuality is now more of an issue than race. Racism is still present in the South but most likely just as much as it is anywhere in the U.S.

Sometimes I wonder what it would be like if their was no accepted traditional gender role to follow; that going to a bar meant hitting on whoever caught your eye whether it be guy, girl, or whatever else. I think we’d be a much more tolerant kind of humanity, with more love and compassion for all types of people in all parts of the nation and world. But that’s all a hypothetical really..

 

[1] Mail Foreign Service. “£40m for any man who can turn my gay daughter straight:
Father’s shock offer after lesbian wedding ceremony.” News. Mail online.                            26 Sept. 2012. Web. 6 Oct. 2012
[2] Johnson, E. Patrick. Sweet Tea: Black gay Men of the South. Chapel Hill: University of                          North Carolina 2008. Print.

The Right to an Opinion

Though this course is mainly structured around the past and issues associated with the way in which tabooed topics were handled in older eras, there are many areas of discussion that remain to be controversial today. One of these topics is definitely abortion and the issues regarding birth control and reproduction. Some are “Pro-Life” and some are “Pro-Choice,” yet the fact of the matter is, society has not come to a consensus regarding abortion and I doubt we ever will.

When considering abortion and the basis on which many individuals form their opinions regarding the matter, it is safe to say that such discussions could get heated. Yelling at the person on the other side of the classroom, however, is not as extreme as murder. I was surprised to read that in the early 90s, there were deliberate murders of medical practitioners working at the Pensacola Abortion Clinic. Seventy year-old Dr. John Bayard Britton was murdered for working at the abortion clinic and turned out to actually be the best friend of a father of an Emory student. Dr. Britton was sadly the replacement for Dr. Dunn who was the first victim of these biased vigilante murders. So, “Pro-Life” advocates were killing in the name of living….confusing isn’t it? What doesn’t make sense is just how an individual can interpret these actions as anything other than completely unjust. First of all, killing one doctor likely would not stop other doctors from fulfilling their obligations. Second, how can you kill in order to support your platform of life? From any angle, its not a good look. Lastly, the way that these advocates were strongly force-feeding the public their personal views regarding abortion was hypocritical. Considering the fact that these advocates were in part fighting against the societal pressures urging women to consider the option of abortion, it would be interesting to see how these advocates would feel if “Pro-Choice” murderous vigilantes went around killing people that were anti-abortion. Not that I would suggest this, but I’m just saying.

Such occurrences make you think of just how women planning to get an abortion, or even just those open to the option, may feel. A “Voices of Emory” section from March of 1995 collected answers from students regarding this exact question. Most say that the violence at these health clinics will have an impact on women’s choices about abortion. Sadly, the decisions that a woman makes about her own health are influenced by the extremist actions of complete strangers. This seems to be the overlaying theme of the situation. This includes males too. In the article titled “Reproductive Rights Apply to Both Sexes,” from September of 1989, there was a situation in which a husband and wife divorced, and yet after the fact, the wife decided to carry to term embryos that were frozen before the divorce. The custody of these embryos was granted to the wife and the husband was forced to be a father.

Reproduction is not completely up to the individual anymore. These days, politics, religion, and culture influence the way in which humans feel about their right and/or ability to reproduce. Sadly, this is a situation that is too hot to handle. The perspectives on either side are far too stubborn to expect there to be any type of happy medium. In my opinion, peoples’ personal opinion should remain just that…personal. It is not fair to force how you may feel onto another person simply because you feel you can.

Two links about sexuality in the news

Thanks “Talks With S” for these links:

Billionaire offers 40 million pound reward to man who will marry his lesbian daughter

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2208967/Cecil-Chao-Sze-tsung-Billionaire-offers-40million-reward-man-marry-lesbian-daughter.html?ito=feeds-newsxml

California bans gay-to-straight therapy for teens

http://www.usatoday.com/story/ondeadline/2012/09/30/jerry-brown-gay-straight-teens/1603965/

Hetero-normativity and Asexuality

I honestly struggled with this. Mosurinjohn’s article about asexual teens is saying that the images children get about normative sexuality are inconsistent with the current reality of human sexuality. She asserts that this is a problem because on the one hand there is no active narrative that addresses childhood sexuality, while on the other, children are exposed to no shortage of images that provide this narrative for them. Unfortunately these images are overwhelmingly skewed, oversexualized, and myopic in their representation of the current reality–these images impose a type of gender role stereotype based on their romantic relations with one another.

I also thought the article contended that there is a pervasive idea that “adult sexuality and ‘childhood innocence’ need to be categorically separated.” As an extension of the argument that we treat children as if they are asexual, because we try to keep the childhood asexual narrative wholly separate from its very-clearly-sexual adult counterpart, we are lacking a transitional space in which children’s sexuality can evolve and grow into mature sexuality. There is no methodology for actively bringing about or nurturing our development on that front. In its absence are media images that themselves do inherently communicate (and therefore perpetuate) negative yet hegemonic ideologies. Within this inconsistency lies the space where narrow interpretations of sexuality can flourish.

If children must be subjected to sexual ideologies anyway, I really don’t see the problem with giving children heteronormative images that aren’t based on skewed heteronormative beliefs. First, they’re children. While they need to be socialized into the realities of human sexuality, I don’t think children’s programming should be the primary means by which this occurs. And to the degree that it occurs at all on children’s programming, it needs to be ambiguous. Why? Because they are children, and children don’t always have the maturity or capacity for understanding matters of a sexual nature. This is not to say they are asexual or should be treated as such, but I think they should be given what they can digest, for all the same reasons we don’t give medium rare prime rib to newborns.

Second, I don’t have a problem with the images that children are exposed to being heteronormative because I think that children need a starting point for learning and understanding. When taught in conjunction with the notion of inclusivity, I don’t think that heteronormative love is a flawed starting point for this type of understanding. Children learn first that we all have two legs, then when they see an amputee with none, it becomes a teachable moment, an opportunity for their own two-leggedness to find its context. I think the value judgment of two-legged superiority is where the problem comes in, but I don’t think that value judgment is inherent to the lesson.

The issue becomes a matter of how unskewed any normative belief system can be. History has shown that they cannot. Because when it comes down girls’ ability to hold their own and attain the positions to take care of themselves, there is no Prince Charming, no pretty hair flip, no magic beauty spell that will make them qualified for that spot. None of the images shown in the schema of Disney characters portray girls in the context of personal achievement and success. They are all subjects. Even Princess Jasmine, who had her own mind about whom she would marry, was STILL being married off and pressured to find a husband who can run her kingdom.

There seems to be a type of value judgment inherent to normativity, where everything that falls outside of it is seen as less than, rather than just different. Perhaps what is needed is a new context for seeing difference, where it is something to be progressed because of rather than in spite of.